Peg Four Agreements

Thanks to Beyond Blue Reader Peg for directing me on the Combox on my contribution “12 Ways to Overcome Jealousy and Envy” on Elizabeth Scott`s review of “The Four Agreements” by Don Miguel Ruiz. As I have said in other articles, I am constantly referring to this book and I have been, like Peg, relieved by this summary of his agreements, because it was a reminder that it was not necessary to do it perfectly for them to be effective. Now the real magic is going on – put the four chords together and let yourself really fly! While the “agreements” are sometimes too simplified, I think it is always a big little book with some heavy ideas. If followed in general (and non-fanatical), these proposals can help you reduce a large amount of stress by helping people avoid patterns of thought and behavior that create frustration, accusations, hurt emotions and other negative emotions. Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data Ruiz, Miguel, 1952- The Four Accords: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom/Miguel Ruiz. p. cm. — (A Toltec wisdom book) (alk. paper) “The problem with the hypothesis is that we believe they are the truth. We assume that we misunderstand, that we take it personally, and that we react by sending emotional poison with our word. It`s a big drama for nothing. Images courtesy of Vicki`s Nature via Creative Commons.

Peg Fitzpatrick article This means gossip, lies, empty promises and other ways to avoid how we create problems with our words. Just say what you mean, and realize that you can cause damage if you are not careful with what you say. This “agreement” is about understanding how the behaviour of others is merely a reflection of them. If someone gives us feedback on us, it is important to remember that no opinion is really objective; We all have our prejudices, the “filters,” through which we see the world and that sort of thing. That is why we should not regard the views of others on ourselves or our actions as quite correct; When someone says something about us (or anything else), they really say something about themselves and how they see the world. A lot of stress arises when people think they know what others are thinking without checking with them. Understanding that other people may have different motivations for acting, or even radically different worldviews, and remembering to try to understand others and discuss these motivations before reaching conclusions about their behaviour, can help prevent interpersonal conflicts. That`s good advice to make us feel better, but take it with a grain of salt. While everyone has their own prejudices and there is no real objectivity in never taking anything personal, people can really limit their ability to see their own negative patterns and biased ways of thinking, and work to develop healthier models and lucid thoughts.

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